Short Answer: NO!!!
Imagine this: You and your fiancé crossing the globe to a magical location with no one else around getting married and having the best time of your life. No stress, no timelines, nothing else in the world but you two.
Deciding to elope is a big step for you and your partner, and it can feel like there’s a lot riding on that choice. You’re not alone if you’re worried about whether you’ll look back and wish you had done something different! At True Summit Films, we understand that this question can linger in your mind, so we’re diving into the topic of elopement regrets and how to make your day as special as possible.
If you already had eloping as an option in your mind, its probably the best choice for you. The main reason we see couples change their minds is family pressure. Some families will pressure you into doing a traditional wedding because they want to be there (trust me, we are in this exact situation right now but we wont cave)! The best option is what is best for YOU and not others. If you still want family to enjoy your marriage, you can do a smaller reception with your close friends and family when you come home!
What Couples Say About Eloping
Insights from couples who have eloped (including ourselves)
Let’s hear it from couples who’ve taken the plunge! We surveyed some couples who chose to elope, and here’s what they had to say about their experiences. Spoiler: they all loved it!
What type of elopement should you do?
The couples we surveyed went all out with diverse elopement styles—from beach getaways to mountain hikes. Each choice was unique and reflected their personalities. Generally they were all somewhat outside or “out of the norm.” You should pick the type of elopement that fits YOU. We’ve captured weddings from rock climbing, helicopter tours, beach front destinations weddings, and much more. Find something you like and go with it. It doesn’t have to be normal.
Average length of photography coverage for an elopement?
Most couples opted for a photographer for a half-day to a full day, ensuring they captured all the special moments without feeling rushed. For destination elopements multi-day coverage was at almost 100%, for local or US based elopements half day and full day were very popular. This would all depend on what you are planning on doing.
Were there any guests at the elopements?
Some couples chose to invite a few close friends or family, while others preferred a totally private affair. It all comes down to what feels right for you! Inviting less or no people will help avoid additional stress from family and friends. If you have a really chill group of friends or family, it can be super easy.
Average Cost of an Elopement Day
On average, couples spent significantly less than the traditional wedding costs, often under $10,000 + photography, which allowed for more intimate celebrations and personal touches. Elopement costs can range from $7000 to $30,000 depending on your plans, ideas, and where you go. This still beats the average cost of a wedding starting at $30,000 up to $100,000 for your average wedding costs.
Do Couples Regret Eloping?
The million-dollar question! While some couples do experience regrets, it usually stems from certain common themes and not from the actual act of eloping. Usually just pressure from friends or family for not having a traditional wedding. But if you take into account your happiness of your day, generally there are no regrets for eloping.
Make Sure You’re Eloping for the Right Reasons
You should elope because it truly resonates with you both, not just because it seems easier or cheaper than a big wedding. If you’ve always dreamed of a grand celebration, that’s valid too! Just remember, this is your day. Don’t let outside pressures stop you from a traditional wedding or an elopement. Do what is best for you and your fiancé.
Tips to Make Your Elopement Special
Eloping doesn’t mean skipping out on the fun and unique elements of a wedding. Here’s how to ensure your day is unforgettable:
- Do it for yourself: Make sure this decision is for both of you, not just one of you. From what we have seen, if one person is on the fence of eloping, they are usually very happy they eloped once its done. However if your partner is 100% against it, it may not net a fun experience.
- Do something you love: Find an activity you love, a thing that’s fun for both of you. Something you can find fun, cool, exciting, etc.
- Travel a bit: Going somewhere new and exciting can really put you in a place where you have no worries. Not to mention you can also go straight to your honeymoon.
- Hire a photographer that specializes in elopements (like us!): If you hire a photographer that is not super experienced in elopements it can net you a far off experience. This is because those of us who have experience know how to make your day awesome since…well we’ve done this a bunch! This can greatly enhance your experience. I mean just take a look at this:
- Wow! We can’t thank James and Krista enough for the most perfect, special wedding day. Our wedding was everything we could dream of plus more! We had so much fun adventuring with them and they went above and beyond in every detail. We will cherish the memories forever!” But for real…. Thank you a million times over. We really couldn’t have asked for a more perfect day. Thank you, thank you, thank you!!! We have told all of our friends and family about you. Please let us know how else we can help you grow!
- Working with James and Krista was a dream! From the time we initially met, we knew it would be a good fit. They were so helpful from the very beginning of the process, so professional, and a joy to be around. Our wedding was exactly what we wanted it to be- laid back, stress free, and so much fun! James and Krista were there to help guide us and capture it all.
- James and Krista at True Summit are true professionals. They are very down to earth which met up perfectly with the energy of myself and Chris.
- Chris and I wanted a very simple and low key situation with our Colorado home backdrop. We knew we wanted our pup, Kona, included. She’s a huge part of who we are and represents more to us than most people know. She’s a representation of where we met at Northern Illinois University where the mascot is a husky.
- James and Krista had the perfect location recommendations for our engagement and elopement. They encouraged us to be adventurous and go to places we hadn’t been. They provided reference points with images they and others had shot. We were hooked! The work that True Summit has done is an excellent representation of who they are. They love adventure, the beauty of nature, and the passion that couples have for each other. Their style is very authentic to who they are. We felt very comfortable with the two and it was an instant friendship. Both captured such amazing candid moments between Chris, Kona, and myself. The interview style for the video of our event is something we are looking forward to seeing as we’ve seen others done by True Summit that have us so excited for our own. We highly recommend this amazing duo to anyone looking for an adventure. They are up for world travels and local experiences and will give you amazing recommendations, but listen to what you want in your own event.
- Most importantly – Have fun: Do anything you can to have the most fun possible. This will give you the best memories of your day and give you zero regrets of eloping.
Common Regrets About Eloping
While many couples cherish their decision to elope, here are a few reasons why some have expressed regret:
1. Longing for a Big Wedding
If you secretly crave a big wedding with all the frills and your loved ones around, eloping might leave you feeling unfulfilled. This is a less common regret as most of the couples we work with are dead set on eloping with a few that were convinced and never looked back.
2. Family Hurt Feelings
Families can feel left out when couples elope. Consider ways to involve them, like a small ceremony or a post-elopement celebration.
Including Your Family in Your Elopement
You can absolutely include family if that matters to you! Maybe a morning vow exchange followed by a cozy dinner with them? This is not an uncommon thing we see.
3. Disappointment in the Experience
Sometimes the day doesn’t live up to expectations, often influenced by beautiful social media posts. Do thorough research and manage your expectations!
Research is Key
Before choosing a location or photographer, dive deep into options. Look at past work, read reviews, and ask the right questions to ensure a match. Don’t pick the first person you see for a photographer or don’t pick the first location you find on Instagram. Pick a location that fits you and your lifestyle, not something that just looks cool. Trust us, this will make a world of difference.
Plan for Success
Think about the logistics: where you’ll stay, what time of year to visit, and your photographer’s experience. Good planning can prevent disappointment! Luckily this is something most photographers will help with.
Reflect on Your True Desires
Before you finalize your plans, take a moment to check in with yourself and your partner. What do you both really want from your wedding day?
The Biggest Regret Online: “I Wish We Had Eloped”
Interestingly, many people who had traditional weddings express that they wish they had eloped instead. This highlights the importance of prioritizing your feelings and desires!
We have found that most couples who wished they had eloped had this desire because their wedding did not turn out to be all of the glam they thought. There was much more stress, planning, and a lot more expenses than an elopement. Sometimes less is more.
Key Points When Choosing Your Elopement Dress
Choosing the perfect dress can be daunting! Consider factors like comfort, style, and whether it feels “you.” If you’re going rock climbing, probably don’t pick a skin tight dress 😅. Just little things like that!
Simple Ways to Announce Your Elopement
Letting family and friends know about your elopement can be as easy as a fun announcement on social media or sending out cute cards!
Final Thoughts
Eloping can be a fantastic way to celebrate your love while staying true to yourselves. If you approach it with intention, communicate openly, and plan thoughtfully, you’re unlikely to regret it.
At True Summit Films, we’re here to help make your elopement an unforgettable experience.
FAQs About Eloping
Is eloping a good idea?
Absolutely! Eloping can lead to a more personal, intimate experience that reflects your unique love story.
How can I include family in my elopement?
Consider having a small ceremony or a separate celebration afterward to share your joy with them.
What should I look for in an elopement photographer?
Find someone who specializes in elopements, has a style you love, and makes you feel comfortable!
FAQs About True Summit Films
What services do you offer?
We provide photography and videography services tailored for elopements and intimate weddings.
Can you help with planning my elopement?
Definitely! We love collaborating with couples to help bring their vision to life and ensure a smooth experience.
Let’s create an amazing day you’ll never forget!
